Life is tough right now. My journey has taken me down a very rough road, ridden with potholes. I yearn for some smooth asphalt. You do, too, I’m sure.
Most of us, sensitive people, are having a rough time of it. That’s normal. But what about those of us who are a higher level than just sensitive, as in Highly Sensitive People? Even if we don’t consider ourselves in this category, we could all probably learn something from it.
This post is borrowed, in part, from an article I read in the Creative Mind series by Douglas Eby (see footnote below). He contributes worthwhile and insightful articles about some of the psychological makeup of our lives. I find that what society is going through at present is causing a major drain on our mental state (I know it is mine), and this most recent article on Highly Sensitive People deals with that. I thought it most relevant to share.
Clinical research psychologist and author Elaine Aron began researching the personality trait of high sensitivity, or Sensory Processing Sensitivity, in the early 1990s. She summarizes our experience as a highly sensitive person (HSP) with the acronym DOES:
D is for Depth of Processing
O is for Overstimulation
E is for Emotional Reactivity and Empathy
S is for Sensing the Subtle
Dr Aron comments about the ‘O’ aspect: “being easily overstimulated is the only negative part of the trait, but it’s a big one. People, with all of this processing, if they’re processing everything that happens to them, their neurotransmitters get worn out sooner.”
“Anxiety or high stress is actually pretty common for highly sensitive people. Much of it has to do with an overloaded sensitive nervous system.” Sensitivity therapist and author Julie Bjelland continues, “When the nervous system doesn’t get time to turn off, even away from someone’s energy in the room, this nervous system ‘engine’ gets overwhelmed…
“It’s common for highly sensitive people to have a busy mind and have a hard time turning it off to relax.” {Boy, can I relate to this!}
The human mind is wired to look out for us which can often mean thinking worst-case scenarios and a negative view of things.
It takes conscious effort to maintain a positive outlook for us all, which of course is not always easy. As HSPs we sometimes have a tendency to turn our powerful cognitive processing ability in on ourselves. When this is coupled with low energy or a pattern of self-doubt and low self-esteem our own minds can quickly become a very difficult place to be.
The trouble is, it can be difficult to identify what are just low-frequency thoughts of fear and which are coming from a place of knowing and self-alignment.
What Drains and Fills Energy for an HSP?
Most HSPs tell me that one of their biggest struggles is the feeling of being tired, depleted and overwhelmed. Here is a list of things that generally drain our energy and things that fill it up.
In what ways do you relate?
These tend to drain our energy and use precious brain space:
- Self judgment
- Self blame
- Too high expectations of ourselves
- Trying to please everyone
- Putting everybody’s need above our own too often and at the expense of our own needs
- Being too busy
- Not enough rest
- Clutter
- Sensory overload
These give us energy and create extra brain space:
- Self care (meditation, yoga, swimming, naps, time with pets, music, reading, etc)
- Quiet alone time
- Rest and enough sleep
- Mindfulness
- Nature
- Developing more self compassion
- Self acceptance
- Being creative and or doing things that we love
- Connecting deeply
Living well with proper self care and balance as a highly sensitive person allows us to access our super strengths and gifts of the trait so we can thrive.
Want to live to your highest potential as an HSP? Do challenges hold you back from using your gifts? Learn how to create healthy boundaries, say no without guilt, get your needs met and feel more connected. The Empowered Highly Sensitive Person book (print and digital versions).
Highly Sensitive People, of whom I evidently am one, experience life and its pitfalls a lot more than the rest of us. It even feels self-defeating at times (for me it does). If life seems to be getting the best of you, try breaking down each day into smaller parcels of time. You might even go so far as dividing your mornings and afternoons in half (get through the first half of your morning before you begin thinking about the second half of the morning). Your day becomes more manageable that way.
Take your high sensitivity in stride for it can be both a blessing and a curse. Above all else, take one day at a time. Remember to celebrate your mini victories!
Join Julie and your HSP tribe in our new Sensitive-Empowerment Community! Douglas Eby (M.A./Psychology) is author of The Creative Mind series of sites which provide “Information and inspiration to help creative people thrive.”
Hopefully making a ruckus, one blog post at a time!
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